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deanna fae

Creative, versatile and imaginative you appreciate beauty in all forms. You have great inner strength and courage and have the ability to accept large responsibilities or challenging situations with patience and humility. Others admire these qualities and follow your lead. You are honest, discerning and self-disciplined and need to have a peaceful environment. Putting others before self your talents are used to make life better for everyone.

7 ways to make someone smile..:)

Do you want to put a smile on someone's face? Maybe make their day a little bit brighter? It doesn't have to take much time or money on your part. In fact, many things can be done as a part of your normal routine and cost little or nothing. You won't know how many people are encouraged by your kindness because smiles are contagious. Try out one or more of these 7 ways today to put smiles on their faces.

1. Write an encouraging note to others that have encouraged you or that need encouragement. Handwritten notes that are given to encourage, not just for thanking someone for a gift, are rare. That makes handwritten notes even more special. Start a new practice of sitting down and writing an encouraging note on a regular basis. You just might start an epidemic!

2. Take a friend out to lunch or invite her to your home for a meal. You will get to know each other even better than you do right now. If you feel like being more adventurous, throw a party for several of your friends and put smiles on a multitude of faces.

3. Give someone an inspirational book to read. You will feel good doing it, reading the book will change the person, and they will think of you every time they read it.

4. Ask a friend or relative if you can take care of their kid(s) for a day or evening. If you have been a parent, you know the value of being able to have a few hours of "adult time" without worrying about the children. Don't wait to be asked to baby-sit when it is required. Offer to do it at a time when the parent can do something fun and relaxing.

5. Deliver a meal to someone you know that is sick or having a rough time. We have all been sick and know the last thing you want to do is be out of bed. There are also times when life is tough and it is hard to do all of the daily chores. You can be a tremendous help by providing a meal that can be enjoyed.

6. Volunteer time to supporting your local church or charity. Every minute you dedicate to a church or charity will cause many smiles. You will put a smile on the face of each leader just for helping without being asked. You will also be putting smiles on the faces of those that are being helped through the organization.

7. Thank everyone that supports you throughout the day. The list of those that you come in contact with is endless. Remember family and friends, secretaries, co-workers, teachers, Sunday school teachers, pastors, store employees, janitors, gas station attendants, those that deliver your mail and newspaper, and servers at restaurants.

I know this is a list of 7 ways to put a smile on someone's face, but there is one more way that can't be ignored. Reveal a genuine smile to everyone you meet. You will experience how easy it is to get others to smile!

How to Compliment a Man Who Catches Your Eye

1. Be sincere and friendly; compliment him the way you would want to be complimented.

2. Step 2

   Smile at him as he walks by. The special attention and obvious appreciation might be all you need to do.

3. Step 3

   Mention that he has a nice smile - but don't be lecherous. Simply say, "You've got a nice smile."

4. Step 4

   Note an article of his outfit that catches your eye: "Great frames!" "Cool sweater!"

5. Step 5

   Don't gawk.

6. Step 6

   Keep your appreciation of his Adonis-like features or body to yourself - anything you say will probably sound cheesy.

7. Step 7

   Compliment him on the situation at hand. For example, tell him he has some great skills on the dance floor.

How to Be Yourself

• There's a big difference between being yourself and being rude.You might have your opinions, dreams, and preferences, but so does everyone else. You shouldn't disrespect people who disagree with you; they have the privilege of being themselves just as you do. Conversely, don't agree with something you honestly don't think is right; just don't try to force your opinions on other people.
• If fads or trends strike your fancy, don't avoid them! Being yourself is all about reflecting who you are inside in what you do, and what you like is what you like, no matter how trendy it is (or not trendy, for that matter)!
• As the famous song goes, "Life's not worth a darn until you can say, I am what I am." When you can sincerely say it, you will know that you can be yourself.
• Even if you are interested in something that doesn't interest most people, don't be afraid or hide it; stand up and show your true inner self. People will know how confident you are.
• Don't worry about anything but being yourself and living life to the fullest!
• If you have a habit that helps you escape your worries, e.g gaming or browsing the internet, stop going and face yourself and your insecurities.
• In some cases, reducing Internet dependency might help you feel more "connected" to yourself. It may be easier to nurture your individuality without the perpetual distractions of the Internet. Try not going online for a while, and if this leads you to start feeling better about yourself, then you may want to consider replacing all the excess time you spend on the Internet with offline activities, such as hobbiesclubs.always be yourself please or

[edit] Warnings

• Just because you don't care about how people perceive you doesn't mean you shouldn't be aware of it, especially in situations where being yourself might be misinterpreted. For example, you might enjoy being friendly and flirtatious, but in some cultures, that might be perceived as a sexual invitation, and you could get yourself in trouble.
• Don't lose yourself when you're with other friends. Be yourself. Don't be someone else so other people will like you; in the end, you would end up hurting other people and losing yourself.
• Don't think that being yourself means that you cannot change who you are. You want to be a person that you can be proud of, so if there is some way you can improve yourself, go for it. Don't allow your shortcomings to discourage you, but don't ignore them either.
• Make sure that you can show the same "you" to everyone consistently. If you feel the need to be secretive about something wrong you've done, you are not really being yourself; it will show and misunderstandings will occur. Do what's right. You cannot truly be yourself unless you can face yourself.
• Keep in mind that 'being yourself' is not always the right thing to do. Would you tell a despicable person to just be himself and not change a thing? No. Most of the time when people in general perceive you a certain way, it means you don't fit in to your society. Whether you want to fit in or not is up to you, but you are only setting yourself up for trouble when you neglect society's ways. (That is, unless you decide to live in a cave for the rest of your life.)
• Nobody is perfect. However, if you are outrageously flawed (for example, have a short temper), then you should look into some self-improvement rather than ignoring everyone's cues and "being yourself." Don't deny yourself of the truth by saying it's everyone else's problem and not yours. You'll only be hurting yourself in the long run.
• While you're being you, remember that "you" might have your flaws that might need to be changed, but only for the better (materialistic things/personality do not count, such as your favorite bag that everybody ridicules, or if you talk quietly). Goals and bad habits count. Say, you have bad acne and you've been stressing on it for a while. Don't say "well, 'I' have bad acne, and I want to be myself, so I'll give up on getting rid of it." Or if you have some bad habits, don't say "it's a part of me, that's the way it is," because you can still change yourself for the better and in ways which will make you grow.
• Being yourself can be cool and can get people to notice you, but don't overdo it. Sometimes it's good to just go with the flow and not stick out like a sore thumb
• Try not to mock people different to you; for all you know others could be making fun of you! Be better than them by setting an example.

1. Find yourself. You can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out. Try to take time to yourself and contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn't like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does. You can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them and not let them define you. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you've made; they're done and in the past, so there is no use crying over spilled milk.
2. Stop caring about how people perceive you. The fact is, it really doesn't matter. It's impossible to be yourself when you're caught up in wondering "Do they think I'm funny? Does she think I'm fat? Do they think I'm stupid?" To be yourself, you've got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — not their consideration of you. Besides, if you change yourself for one person or group, another person or group may not like you, and you could go around in a vicious cycle trying to please people; it's totally pointless in the end, and it leaves you exhausted. However, if someone you trust and respect critiques aspects of who you are, feel free to judge (honestly) whether or not it is accurate instead of accepting or dismissing the critique unconditionally.
3. Be honest and open. What have you got to hide? We're all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself — and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally — then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks. Be honest with yourself, but don't beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others when being honest.
4. 
   Relax. Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterwards. Turn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets them know that you're not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. It's also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!
5. Develop and express your individuality. Whether it's your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, then be proud of it... unless it's destructive to yourself or others. Be a character, not a type.
6. Have a productive day. Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and that some days, you're the statue. People might raise eyebrows and even make fun, but as long as you can shrug and say "Hey, that's just me" and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you'll respect yourself.
7. Believe in who you are. If you're always working to be someone you're not, you'll never be a happy person. Be yourself and show the world you're proud of the way you are! Nobody knows you better than you and that's how it should be. You deserve to be your own best friend, so start trying to figure out how you can do that. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you? Believe in this idea and use that as your starting point.
8. Follow your own style. The common thing a lot of people do is copy other's actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn't you stand out? Standing out yes, is very hard, but you need to try avoid assuming other people's perspectives of you. Maybe you like to sit outside on the deck under a umbrella in the middle of the rain, maybe you have different ideas of things, rather than other people, maybe you like strawberry cake instead of the common chocolate cake, whatever you are, accept it. Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you.

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My TOP 10 ways to be HAPPY..:)

I believe that everyone wants to feel happier -- sometimes they just don't know where to begin.
Even me.. i really felt some depression at times, but im struggling to fight it for happiness, im optimistic, so do my life sails through.. 3L's.. ive

learned..:)

1. Don't expect perfection from yourself or anyone else. Don't forget this is planet Earth. And don't expect perfection in working these happiness tips,

either. Lean into them everyday, and your life can change. Progress is good enough.

2. Accept. Stop judging. When we judge ourselves, our circumstances, or other people, it leaves no opening to settle into and accept "what is." If your

circumstances seem too severe to accept, try to resist less. And less. You will give yourself emotional space to move toward acceptance and change at the

same time. Sounds like a contradiction, but that's the beauty. It isn't.

3. Stay in the present. Do not waste time and energy regretting the past or worrying about the future. Worry is a drain. We might think that worry teaches us

or motivates us, but calm presence is the best source of happiness, wisdom, and positive action.

4. Be grateful. When we put our attention on all the good in our lives, the good tends to increase. Remember to be thankful for the small blessings, the

everyday things. At the University of California at Davis, psychologist Robert Emmons found that those who wrote in a "gratitude journal" weekly experienced

better health, more energy, and for patients with neuromuscular disease, less pain and fatigue. The more they found to be grateful for and the more detail

they described in their journals, the greater benefits they experienced.

5. Decide to be happy. Having the intention to be happy, regardless of current circumstances, attracts conditions that support you. The old saying that "like

attracts like" even works with your intentions. They act like a magnet and draw to you more of what you are already resonating. If you want to be happy, make

happiness your first desire.

6. Be self-authorized Stop making choices based on what others believe you should do, think, or be. Stay true to your own innate knowing of what is best for

you. Speak your truth in a kind manner. Let others be responsible for their reactions.

7. Choose how you feel. We often say that something or someone "made" us feel a certain way. And yet, as we watch people react so differently to the same

event, we see with our own eyes that people choose how they feel. Learn to pause. Take a moment to choose how you wish to react and feel. You may be

surprised at how much leeway you have!

8. Examine your beliefs. Often things in our life we accept as facts are really self-defeating beliefs. Once you find these beliefs are not true, they will

shift and dissolve. Beliefs influence every decision you make.

9. Expand your options Allow for more possibilities in the present and future, regardless of past experience. Drop the word "can't" from your self-talk.

Allow yourself to dream big. On a weekly basis, write down all your desires, and let the sky be the limit. No one has to see this list but you!

10. Create what you desire Rather than putting all your energy into pushing away the things you don't want, direct your energy into creating what you do

want. Come up with even just one action step - and then the next - and start building the life you desire.

Happiness is worth your time and attention because feelings affect every choice you make, every action and reaction. They, along with the hidden self-

defeating beliefs that underlie them, create your life. They affect your brain chemistry, your immune system, your ability to fight disease, and your

longevity. They can make the difference between creating a relationship of mutual acceptance and respect, or going your separate ways.

So, go ahead, dive in. Don't feel guilty for wanting more happiness. As Robert Louis Stevenson said, "By being happy, we sow anonymous benefits upon the

world." And ourselves.

deanna.. :) bares soul..

:)

10 Ways to Love People

I got this from a friend today.  I find it really nice so I wanna share it to everyone who reads my blog. Very true and biblical...

1.  listen without interrupting (Proverbs 18)

2.  speak without accusing (James  1:19)

3.  give without sparing (Proverbs 21:26)

4.  pray without ceasing (Colossians 1:9)

5.  answer without arguing (Proverbs 17:1)

6.  share without pretending (Ephesians 4:15)

7.  enjoy without complaint (Philippians  2:14)

8.  trust without wavering (Corinthians 13:7)

9.  forgive without punishing (Colossians 3:13)

10. promise without forgetting (Proverbs 13:12)

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Which Blush Type Should You Choose?

September 10, 2009

When you go buying blusher for your face, it is important to consider what type of blusher you should buy. There is a wide array of textures and finishes in which it is available, and if you choose the wrong type of blusher using it may become a bit messy and a bit tricky.

While your skin type does count in making a choice, about the blusher type that will suit you best, you also need to look at how easy it is to apply the particular type and whether it is easier to blend, to get to the right effect.

There are four different types of blushers, and we have detailed them out here so that it becomes easier for you to pick and choose the perfect type.

Powder Blush

This is the most commonly available type, and nearly every well known makeup brand manufactures this type. This is long lasting and fairly easy to apply, and that’s what makes it the most popular. The best way to apply powder blush is using a makeup brush, as with the makeup brush it becomes easy to spread it evenly on your cheeks and to blend it well with your natural skin.

Gel Blush

This one isn’t as easy to apply, as the one we just talked about, but it is still popular because of the lovely translucent shine that it gives to your cheeks. This is best for you when your skin is somewhere between normal to oily. For this you don’t really need a makeup brush, as it can be easily applied using just your fingertips. It dries up quickly and is much more long lasting than the powder version.

Cream Blush

This is a little thicker than all the other blusher types, and as the name is indicative it comes with a cream base. And obviously, with its cream base, it is ideal for dry skin as it contains a lot of moisturizing ingredients. The creamy texture allows your skin to absorb the blush easily, while at the same time it makes it easier to spread it and to blend it.

Tint Blush

These aren’t very popular, but they’re definitely the best choice when you want to proceed with applying blush without using the foundation as a base. Even in terms of touch-up it’s much more convenient, than all the other types, however you don’t really need to touch it up so often because one application can easily last you all through the day. But you need to be very careful while applying it, because it dries up very fast, and thus blending it can turn out to be a bit tricky.

Ways to show your mom you love her?

There she is, your mom. The person who raised you and loved you and who can comfort you best and can annoy you the most. Dealing with your mom when you're all grown up can be challenging. She took eighteen year out of her life to raise you. Maybe you're looking for a little time you could carve out to repay that huge kindness. Find out how to improve one of the most complex relationships you'll ever have.

If your mother lives far from you, call your mother. Then a few days later, call her again. Then call her again. Call to listen to her. Find out about what she's doing, ask her questions and listen again. The most important thing you can give her is your time, to hear about her life and care about how she's feeling and what she's doing. Just listen to the sound of her voice. It's a reassuring and you probably know it by heart. If you let it, it doesn't matter what she's saying. The sound alone can nurture you.

If your mother lives far, write her a letter or arrange a trip to go and see her and spend time with her. If your mother lives close, or with you, set aside ten minutes every day to visit with her. Just a quick phone call, or if she's with you in person, stop and chat with her. Give her your full attention. Find at least one thing to compliment her genuinely on. Enjoy seeing her face, and loving her.

If you see your mother every day, hug her every day. If you see her once a week, hug her at least three times during your visit to see her. Give her as much of your affection as you both can take.

Draw, write or make something special for your mom. Create a card, or knit a scarf, draw a picture or write down a memory of a time you both shared that was meaningful to you. While you're creating your homemade gift to her, think about all the things you like about her, the things that make you glad she's your mom. You might be surprised once you focus on the good, how much good will come to you, all the bad and annoying things filtering out. Feel her good qualities, the times she made you feel good, or surprised you. Even if your scarf comes out lumpy or your brownies taste really bad, your heart will be opened with all the thoughts of love for your mom.

Mail or present your gift to your mom. While you are sharing it with her, tell her some of the good things you were thinking about her while you were making the gift. Celebrate the gift and your mom by giving her a hug.

Try to think of one thing a week you can do special for your mom. Asking her out to the movies or dinner, spending time talking on the phone, treating her to a manicure or a pedicure. Find out what really makes her feel good and see if you can help make her days sparkle.

Go to sleep at night knowing you are highlighting the love you have for your mom, and helping to deepen the bond you share in hopes of a more open, happier and gentle relationship. She gave you life. Enjoy her!

Hope it helps

How To Love Yourself In 17 Ways

by Evelyn on March 20, 2008

I’ve compiled a list on how to love yourself for readers who are facing difficulty knowing what to do in boosting their own self esteem. When I first began to be aware that I need to love myself first, before I can develop any meaningful relationships with others, I realised that I did not know where to start.

This was a surprise to me then as I would have thought I’d be an expert on love and relationships by then. After all, as I recalled, in my younger days, I’ve spent much time looking for the best spouse or romantic partner. But I soon realised that my search was meant to fill the void or emptiness I had inside. Finding a good relationship with myself seemed to be an even harder task! However, as things turned out, I realised that I failed miserably in my early relationships because I had insufficient or little self love.

If you’ve suffered from low self esteem, then it goes to show that you are lacking in self love. You may even find it difficult to even search your heart for that little bit of love you have for yourself. I dare say that your mind has been so ingrained with self sabotaging thoughts for the longest time, that loving yourself sounds unnatural to you.

However, nothing is going to happen if you do not make a conscious decision. And that includes Attracting Abundance. When you don’t love yourself, you are basically telling the Universe that you are unworthy or undeserving of any love or positive outcomes that have the same vibrational match as love.

Learning to love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an intention to become happy and lead a fulfilled life. When you do not love yourself and suffer from low self esteem, you can find that it impossible to ever reach the potential that you suspect you have.

“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.”
Lucille Ball quotes (American radio and motion-picture actress and comedy star, 1911-1989)

When you make a decision to love yourself, you are really saying that you want to come alive. You accept that you are responsible for the outcomes that you experience in your life and would like yourself to shine from living a fulfilling life.

So if you’ve decided on loving yourself but are as equally stumped on how to love yourself, as I was back then, here are 17 ways which I believe can be helpful:

1. Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you You. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not meant that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself for all your flaws. Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection that is You.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
Oscar Wilde quotes (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 1854-1900)

2. Eliminate Self Criticism. Do you often berate yourself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes. If you find that you criticise yourself often, make an effort to stop the self criticism.

“I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ.” — unknown

3. Be Kind And Positive. When you start to think kindly and positively about yourself, the love you have for yourself just grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself everyday, while in the front of the mirror. Because of such thoughts, you naturally undertake empowering actions that support your development.

4. Acknowledge Your Effort. It’s not always about winning or having success in everything that you do. Many times, it is the effort that counts! Acknowledge that you’ve done your best, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.

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5. Let Go Of Worry. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. I can attest to that! Worry does not help in any way. It cannot, on its own, make things happen. Only wise actions can! So instead of worrying, spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then ask the Universe for your desired outcome and let things work out on their own. Things will come to be, if they are meant to be.

“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” — Epictetus quotes (Greek philosopher associated with the Stoics, AD 55-c.135)

6. Trust Yourself. Have confidence in your abilities. Know that you have the ability to make important changes for yourself, for as long as you put your heart to it. You can also support yourself by visualizing desired outcomes.

“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”
Benjamin Spock quotes (American Pediatrician and Author, 1903-1998)

7. Forgive Yourself. If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes; so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them. Or if you’ve been carrying around a baggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood trauma, learn to forgive yourself that it is not your fault.

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
Lewis B. Smedes quotes

8. Be Truthful To Yourself. Loving yourself requires you to be truthful about your own feelings. If you are happy, acknowledge the joy. If you are sad, acknowledge the sorrow. When you are truthful about your feelings, you do not try to lie to yourself or seek to bury your negative emotions. Instead, acknowledging what you feel provides a good guide to what your thoughts are. And as we all know, thoughts can be changed, so that healing and self growth can take place.

9. Grow Spiritually. When you spend time growing spiritually, loving yourself is an automatic thing. You become more peaceful, connected, kind, loving and compassionate. You nurture a mind that grows more beautiful by the day. How to not love yourself in the process?

10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday. Post affirmations that can help raise your self esteem everyday. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept myself completely and unconditionally.” Read your affirmations out loud several times a day.

11. Express Gratitude. Express gratitude for the person that you are. For instance, cultivate an appreciation for your strengths and gifts. Also, feel a sense of gratitude that you are alive and well, and fully capable of making a difference in your life.

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12. Nurture Your Dreams. Why deny yourself your dreams? When you nurture your dreams, you would love the life that you are leading. Every moment that you live is a joy because you are expressing yourself fully.

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. —Mark Twain

13. Boost Your Self Confidence. Make a deliberate attempt to look for opportunities that can help improve your sense of Self. For instance, if you are particularly good at doing something, set aside more time to indulge and improve your skills on it. Knowing that you have particular gifts can boost your self esteem.

14. Relax. You need to give yourself space to take breaks every now and then. If you spend your time working, without paying attention to your health, it also means that you do not love yourself well enough to take care of your own body. Fill your time with silence, soothing music and visions of beauty; anything that nourishes your Soul.

15. Have Fun. Inject some fun into your life. Life is meant to be an enjoyable. Don’t take life or yourself too seriously. If you can think of life in this manner, you automatically relax and quit worrying over things that do not matter.

16. Look After Your Body. It is important that you strengthen yourself with proper nutrition and regular exercise. Your body is a temple and you should treat it with respect, love and care. It has been found that the lack of self love is often the root causes of conditions like eating disorders, obesity or even terminal diseases.

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”
Jim Rohn quotes (American Speaker and Author. He is famous for motivational audio programs for Business and Life. )

17. Learn To See Beauty. When you learn to see beauty in every thing, you will also see beauty in yourself. Hence, stop to smell the flowers. Notice everything. Feel everything. The pink blush of the flowers in your garden, the greeness of the plains, the whisper of the gentle wind, or the myraid hues of an evening sky.

Here is a good affirmation to read and reflect on…..

“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”

Self-Esteem Booster: Ten Ways To Love Yourself

You weren't born perfect - nobody is. But you can do something to make your life a lot better than what is experienced by the average individual. The people who are the happiest with their lives are those who can learn to love themselves just the way they are.
Here are some suggestions on how to place yourself up on that pedestal and laugh at negative energy.
Pay Yourself A Compliment
Give yourself a compliment at least once a day. It could be something like "I really liked the way I handled that situation," or "I love how my hair falls softly onto my face today". The compliment can be deep or superficial. Whatever it is, it should help keep your mood up, even if only slightly. Highlight the positive aspect of every situation you encounter. If you practice this often, you're on your way to liking yourself a whole lot better.
Make Yourself Over
Grab your closest friend and get all dolled up. Put on your best attire, dab on a little make-up and get your hair done (not necessarily by a professional), then grab a camera and snap fun and funny photos of each other. Once you've had the photos printed, discard those that make you look drab and keep only the shots were you looked your best. Whenever you feel down, you can just go look at these pictures to remind yourself that you are good-looking and that your life is fun.
Get Physically Fit
You don't need to achieve a supermodel-like physique. Simple daily exercises to boost your bloodstream every morning will do. You will feel better, your mood will be more positive, and the more congenial you will be with other people. If you give out positive energy, the more beautiful you become - and the more people will be inclined to return positive vibes to you, too.
Change Your Body Image
If there's something in your body that you dislike, find out what's causing you to smirk at it. Chances are, the reasons are very shallow and superficial. The realization of this will help you attain a better self-image and teach you to appreciate yourself more.
Treat Yourself
Set aside time once a week to do something just for you. It could be anything from watching a cheesy movie to walking your dog in the park. As long as it's time for you in doing what you want to do.
Wear Nice Underwear
This sounds silly, but it works! Wearing really cute knickers does make you feel better and a lot more confident about facing others. Don't believe this? Try it!
List Your Good Points
Without looking at the mirror, make a list of all the things you appreciate and like about your body - things like, "I have great hair" or "I have a nice set of teeth". Keep this list in your wallet or wherever you can see them and whenever you feel terrible, just take out this list and read it to yourself.
Travel
Ask a few of your best pals to spend a day out of town with you. Pack a delicious snack and spend the day fishing or hiking, or whatever suits your interests. A day in the fresh air is sure to give you an energy boost and make you feel good about yourself.
Get Away From People Who Put You Down
You know these kinds of people. They simply can't stand the fact that you're okay with your life and will always try to dampen your mood. Avoid them at all cost, because they'll never make you feel good about yourself.
Do A Good Deed
Do something good for someone else. You will find that things like volunteering at a homeless shelter or even a simple thing like helping somebody who is lost by giving proper directions will make you feel good for the rest of the day. You will be doing something worthwhile and when you see how badly off some people are, you will start to appreciate your life more and be grateful for what you have.

Top Ten Ways To Be Happy

  

I believe that everyone wants to feel happier -- sometimes they just don't know where to begin. So here are ten sure-fire ways to increase your happiness quotient - and achieve your goals more easily than before!
1. Don't expect perfection from yourself or anyone else. Don't forget this is planet Earth. And don't expect perfection in working these happiness tips, either. Lean into them everyday, and your life can change. Progress is good enough.
2. Accept. Stop judging. When we judge ourselves, our circumstances, or other people, it leaves no opening to settle into and accept "what is." If your circumstances seem too severe to accept, try to resist less. And less. You will give yourself emotional space to move toward acceptance and change at the same time. Sounds like a contradiction, but that's the beauty. It isn't.
3. Stay in the present. Do not waste time and energy regretting the past or worrying about the future. Worry is a drain. We might think that worry teaches us or motivates us, but calm presence is the best source of happiness, wisdom, and positive action.
4. Be grateful. When we put our attention on all the good in our lives, the good tends to increase. Remember to be thankful for the small blessings, the everyday things. At the University of California at Davis, psychologist Robert Emmons found that those who wrote in a "gratitude journal" weekly experienced better health, more energy, and for patients with neuromuscular disease, less pain and fatigue. The more they found to be grateful for and the more detail they described in their journals, the greater benefits they experienced.
5. Decide to be happy. Having the intention to be happy, regardless of current circumstances, attracts conditions that support you. The old saying that "like attracts like" even works with your intentions. They act like a magnet and draw to you more of what you are already resonating. If you want to be happy, make happiness your first desire.
6. Be self-authorized Stop making choices based on what others believe you should do, think, or be. Stay true to your own innate knowing of what is best for you. Speak your truth in a kind manner. Let others be responsible for their reactions.
7. Choose how you feel. We often say that something or someone "made" us feel a certain way. And yet, as we watch people react so differently to the same event, we see with our own eyes that people choose how they feel. Learn to pause. Take a moment to choose how you wish to react and feel. You may be surprised at how much leeway you have!
8. Examine your beliefs. Often things in our life we accept as facts are really self-defeating beliefs. Once you find these beliefs are not true, they will shift and dissolve. Beliefs influence every decision you make.
9. Expand your options Allow for more possibilities in the present and future, regardless of past experience. Drop the word "can't" from your self-talk. Allow yourself to dream big. On a weekly basis, write down all your desires, and let the sky be the limit. No one has to see this list but you!
10. Create what you desire Rather than putting all your energy into pushing away the things you don't want, direct your energy into creating what you do want. Come up with even just one action step - and then the next - and start building the life you desire.
Happiness is worth your time and attention because feelings affect every choice you make, every action and reaction. They, along with the hidden self-defeating beliefs that underlie them, create your life. They affect your brain chemistry, your immune system, your ability to fight disease, and your longevity. They can make the difference between creating a relationship of mutual acceptance and respect, or going your separate ways.
So, go ahead, dive in. Don't feel guilty for wanting more happiness. As Robert Louis Stevenson said, "By being happy, we sow anonymous benefits upon the world." And ourselves.

10 Ways to Make Your Study Sessions More Productive

10 Ways to Make Your Study Sessions More Productive

September 10th, 2007 | by Ryan Stewart | Establish a routine that utilizes any or all of these things to make your study sessions more productive.

1. Eliminate human distractions. Pick a study location where you can work uninterrupted. If it’s your room, post a “do not disturb” sign on your door. If you’re interrupted anyway, be sure the guilty party knows that these interruptions are not acceptable. You should play hard. But when the time comes to study, you should study hard too - your friends should be able to accept that. Oh yeah, turn off your phone(s) too.
2. Clear your mind. Now more than ever, our brains are inundated with information. Gone are the days when college students had to manage a handful of things - class, social life, and well, social life. Today’s college students are bombarded with cell phone calls, rss feeds, facebook updates, internship concerns, and email in addition to social life and class work. Before you crack your books, take a few minutes to clear your mind. Close your eyes, breath deeply, and relax. I highly recommend the 10-Minute Supercharger from Learning Strategies Corporation for this purpose. It’s ten minutes well spent to prepare your mind for maximum learning before you ever begin. You’ll be relaxed yet energetic and ready to start learning.
3. Begin with the end in mind. Now that your mind is clear, take a moment to set some goals for what you will learn. If you’re studying from a textbook, use the objectives printed at the beginning of the chapter as a starting point. If that’s not an option, use your course syllabus to set you on the right track. As the old saying goes, “if you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.” The road to learning specific information is, itself, very specific. Chart your path in advance and you’re in for a very productive session.
4. Use earplugs. I’m a big fan of wearing earplugs when I study. They block out ambient noise, such as doors closing in the distance, chatter in the hallway, and sirens from outside the building. As an added benefit, I’ve found that using earplugs actually allows me to “hear myself think.” Because the ambient noise is no longer there, I am able to hear the conversations I’m having in my head thereby enabling me to build networks of information (versus memorizing alone). Call me crazy, but it works.
5. Recognize the power of smell. Smell is said to be the sense with the greatest attachment to memory. Some think it’s proximity to memory centers in the brain is responsible for this connection. Experiment with the effects of smell on your memory while you study. If it’s safe (and permitted), burn a scented candle or incense during your study sessions. Then when you’re stumped on a test or quiz, close your eyes and recall the smell of the candle or incense. It might just jumpstart your memory.
6. Develop a standard notetaking method. Different students like different note taking methods. Whether you prefer mind mapping, Cornell notes, outline format, sentence format, or another method, find one that works for you and stick to it. Over time, you’ll develop your own version of note taking and will be able to use this method for the rest of your life.
7. Take regular breaks. Your brain can only take so much in one sitting. When your mind starts to wander, or you find yourself daydreaming or reading the same paragraph over and over again, it’s time to take a break. Spend 10 minutes away from the books, but don’t enter another activity that requires concentration or would result in distraction. In other words, don’t check facebook, don’t visit with friends, don’t read email or rss feeds. Instead, take the opportunity to go to the bathroom, drink a bit of water (500mL is good), and stretch your back, neck, arms and legs. Streching promotes blood flow in the body and will serve to wake your brain up allowing you to get back into 100% concentration much faster. When you’re ready to get back to it, don’t forget to clear your mind and begin with the end in mind again.
8. Hydrate. Drink water while you study. If you’re brain is getting a workout, it needs water to function efficiently - just as your muscles do. Take advantage of internal interruptions like daydreaming or “oh-yeah, I’ve gotta do that” moments by taking a drink of water, writing down the interruption, and then get back to learning. The goal is to sustain a 100% concentration level. Water will help to make this happen. As an added benefit, drinking water will also force you to take regular breaks as your kidneys do their job.
9. Snack on brain food. Just as your brain needs water to operate in a highly productive state, it also needs food. Snacking lightly while studying prevents you from getting hungry (another internal distraction). Light snacking also prevents you from having to eat large meals that result in the post meal coma that we’re all so familiar with. Remember, healthy snacks are important.
10. Tweak your routine. After you’ve established a routine, don’t be afraid to tweak it to perfection. Over time you’ll find that you prsefer one candle over another, like the purple earplugs more than the orange ones, and learn more in the library than you do in the coffee shop. Constant improvement is what makes you a bona fide lifelong learner.

Highly productive study sessions result in shorter study times and the ability to learn more complex information faster. Establishing a routine that incorporates these methods will allow you to integrate the information you and build networks of knowledge that will act as a foundation for lifelong learning.

The Virgin is highly discriminating, but not necessarily as prudish at some might believe. In ancient times, a Virgin was a woman who was not the property of man, and therefore had the legal right to just say "no." Now, in modern times, you Virgos are known for your ability to be highly discriminating -- especially when it comes to matters of personal desire. When you are ready, however, to say yes, the laser-like focus of your passion is anything but prudish.

You Virgos have the uncanny sense to see what's wrong with a person, a situation or your environment. It's why you make such natural critics. Your practical analytical abilities are second to none. Your mental process may not be the most creative, but your razor-like thinking is highly effective. Like the maiden pictured in your glyph, you separate the useful wheat from the unneeded chafe, the good from the bad. You might be a "clean freak," but most Virgos have a messy closet somewhere or a disaster under their bed.

Your motto could be "Perfect is almost good enough." On one hand, this trait makes you very employable, for you're not likely to do shabby work. On the other hand, you can be so finicky that you put limitations on your interactions and experiences before they happen. You'll be happier if you can learn to be selectively less critical, both of others and yourself.

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